Just Pass Me By

This weekend at church we talked to one of our friends who has just completed law school. He is getting ready to take the bar exam and pass. He very bright. My husband shared with him what been going on with mom and dad. We are concerned because of everything that is happening with mom and dad.

Mom and dad cross the way neighbor were checking their mail, and it appears mom and dad hasn’t been getting all their mail. Somehow the man got cell phone in dad name. Dad is saying he don’t remember even going to the store, and is saying he was at home or in the car. They have ran up the cellphone charges to close to 1300 this does not even count the fees for canceling a contract with the cell phone company each phone is going to be a additional 200. Lovely! There are 3 cellphones so we have now 600 on those charges so that brings us up to a nice total of 1900. Mom and dad are on a fix income there is no way they can pay this. The cross the way neighbor said they pay this, how can they when they only work at a fast food joint for 20 hours a week it not like they work at Las Vegas hotel were they would get great tips. They are working for a flat rate of maybe 8 a hr. So lets see I don’t need to do the math here. I can figure this one out they will NEVER PAY Mom and Dad! Since they have been known they haven’t kept stable jobs.

Then we have the RV they wanted to buy from mom and dad. Well mom and dad got the RV back because they weren’t paying on that neither. They tore up the RV, there was Fesses and Urine everywhere including on the driver and passenger seats in the front. So fixing this up will be a whole other expense which I don’t have a clue of the cost. I just know, we need to do something to protect mom and dad from people like this.

We have a next door neighbor who is like family, they tired to warn mom and dad and it fall on death ears. My husband and I tried to warn them. I spoke with my grandma when this first started happening and she told us to get Power of Attorney with mom and dad. My husband didn’t want to do this but this is something that is probably going to be needed eventually. Financially mom and dad are unprotected. I am thinking if my husband or myself were on their account and needed contacting if any changes are made that would affect mom and dad negatively or add a other person to the account. This way my husband and I could maybe put a stop to it.

Now how do we have this conversation with mom and dad. My husband is thinking maybe having the family next door do this but I am not so sure it is a good idea. Mom and dad haven’t been listening to them very well. Our friend is saying the same thing that Grandma is and others who I have spoke to. I know we need to talk to mom and dad but how do we do bring this up. I want them to be safe and happy. I want them to not have to worry about their money or being victims of scummy jerks who think they have a right to steal from the old, and steal from someone who served our Country in WW2.

Dad served this country and it really bugs me that someone would do this to him. Why does this family think they have a right to do this to mom and dad. Mom ill, dad well he dad! Why come to people who are already hurting and hurt them in a other way. My husband Parents are the most loving and compassionate peoples I have ever known. They accept me for who I am and still love me. Not many wives can say their husband parents love them and sees them as their own daughter. Many wives struggle with being like by the parents.
I may be the one who talks to mom and dad about power of attorney and who they would like it to be. I want them to get what they want but at the same time them being safe, and sometimes safety don’t equal having what we want.