Just Pass Me By

I have talked about my husband parents a few times. They have decided that my husband and I be their Power of Attorney. I now this is a lot of responsibility and sometimes it not a pleasant thing to be. My husband and I over the summer where named the Medical Power of attorney, this is different then power of attorney. I believe the right term for this is Medical Agent, this means my husband and I make sure mom and dad wishes are met. This is hard because sometimes family can be pretty difficult to deal with, they can be down right rude when their way isn’t met. Mom and Dad know that if their son don’t want to follow through I will follow through, and they also know that I have strength my husband does not have. This is not a bad thing but sometimes my husband needs me to help him, and same here I need him to help me.
My husband isn’t strong with numbers, that okay because I make up for it. I am weak in English, yes this is my first language. Hubby has a master in English, me if I ever complete my Bachelors, I will get my Master in psychology. My main focus will be on women and children, victim of abuse. Between the two of us, I am the one who is very direct, and I don’t take a bunch of grief from people. Normally I put a stop to it or find a way to make peace with everyone. My role in the family is Peacemaker, sometimes I simply do not succeed.
My husband decided I would be the best to handle the financial stuff with mom and dad. I think maybe he feels a little uncomfortable doing this because he their son. I do not feel uncomfortable doing this even though I see them as my parents to. I guess it doesn’t both me because I used to help my mom balance her books, and I have friends who come to me to help them budgeting and planning. I have helped several friends figure out their budgets, and been able to help them find out where they have went wrong. When I go shopping with hubby it drives me nuts for a couple of reason, because I don’t keep a good talli up in my head. He will add things in the cart and not tell me what it cost, this drives me nuts, or add things that I don’t see. When I am by my self I know exactly how much I will spend before checking out, when I am with him I can get somewhere near it.
This weekend we went up to mom and dad’s, I love going there it always so peaceful and they make me feel at home. I worry about dad because he seems to forget things which are important. I think this weekend was one of the most uncomfortable weekends for me, because I had to try to figure out where money was going with out it being noted in their books. This is not a good thing, because it hard to figure out exactly what should mom and dad have in their account. I felt frustrated with dad for not writing in what checks where spent. He will have people fill out his checks and this concerns me. Why am I concerned, because they bounced their account and I can not see to find any good reason for it. I know I was missing the electric bill, and not sure about other things. I guess we have a lot of work ahead of us over the next couple of weeks. I needed to look at their budget, to see if they could offered to make payments on something, I think it best at this time to say no to it, and wait awhile until we know exactly what is going on with their accounts. It looks like it might be time to talk to their banker and maybe they can help me sort out their accounts.