Just Pass Me By

Last night I had a conversation with a online friend. She has 2 kids both who are special, she has been through a very rough time lately. My heart goes out to her because she is faced with so much being a single mom. She not working right now because she feels she needs to be with her children, which I think is great. Someone had the nerve to tell her she was lazy and aught to get a job. Okay we all know money is tight but I don’t even want to begin thinking what it be like for her. She has been looking for a part time job, which is good for her as long as she wants to do it.
Okay being a parent isn’t a lazy job, moms and dads who stay at home with their children are very busy and work very hard. I was a nanny for a while and worked in daycares and I will just put it this way, being a parent is not a paid job but if it was no one would be able to pay what they are worth. Lets see in a mother day she is probably doing a couple loads of laundry, cooking at least 3 meals a day not to mention making snacks. Teacher her children things like maybe their ABCs, counting and reading. The mom is probably working with the children to learn manners, and they are probably cleaning up after their child depending on the age. I can understand the person making their comments if my friend kids where already in school all day, but even then I wouldn’t think she was lazy.
Today on the radio station they read a email someone sent about her sister who lives at home. She also living at home to help take care of her dad who has cancer. Her sister isn’t helping out at all and pretty much leeching off of her parents, doesn’t help around the house neither. Okay now that being lazy, but know at the same time I wonder if this is the person way to deal with her father having cancer.
I lost my dad when I was 17 from cancer, it hard to deal with watching a parent go through that. I would say this sister messed up by emailing the radio station, and should have talked to her sister. If this family does not have any support system they need to get one. It sounds like her sister may be depressed or seriously struggling with everything and some people will aviod things, in the hopes it goes away. Yes the house work don’t go away, and the frustration and pain of your parent have cancer is hard to deal with. There are 5 stages that terminal patients go through, and I think the family also goes throw those stages. If this sister wasn’t lazy before finding out that her dad was sick, then maybe her sister should try being understanding and supportive, but at the same time don’t let her take advantage of the family.
Dealing with illness in the family is hard enough, and if her sister was listening this morning it probably would have made her feel even worst, and it already sounded in the email that this sister was closing off and locking herself in her bedroom. Well, locking herself away for a couple days would make me very concern about her mental health, and I would probably encourage her to go to some counsellings. Counselling can help, it allow the person to talk out their problems, I know it helped me to have someone other then my Grandma to go to about my dad illness.
Problems need to be dealt with, like if you have a bad case of acne then you want the best acne treatment. The problem this family has can’t be ignored it needs to be faced.