Just Pass Me By

Today I called my mom to let her know, I received the check she mailed me. She sent us some money for food, normally I will not ask her for help but I really needed help. My husband and I have ended up spending a lot of money on going down to mom and dad a lot, last week we went down, 2 times, and the week before that we went for a few days and stayed in a hotel.
Mom was asking when we would go to Oregon to see her. I told her it be cheaper to come this way where I have a extra room her and her hubby could us. There’d be no hotel cost, and we could easily pick her up from the airport with her hubby, or on the greyhound. It makes no sense that she thinks it be easier for my husband and I to go there then for her to come this way. Last time I went there to visit I stayed in a hotel, back then it was cheap but now it probably like most others out there. I don’t think it will be as expensive as Vegas vacations, but I do know we have the room here and she making right now more money then we are.
Don’t get me wrong I want to see her, but I just don’t see how we can afford to when my husband and I are expected to cover everything on his side of the family. My mom was asking about his sister, and I told mom exactly what I thought and I wasn’t nice about it either. I asked mom to guess how many times you think his sister went to visit mom? She replied 2 or three times. I said Yeah kind of more like only 2 times, you know how often we’ve been down. Mom said we where down there a lot, and she knew it. I told her every weekend except the 2 one for my ankle, and one for my husband care. I been feeling a little upset that every time mom and dad needed something it fell to my husband and I to make sure it was provided. We brought down meals, which I don’t mind doing I love cooking, and shoot I was happy to help. But it would have been nice if his sister would shut the heck up and be helpful.
I am annoyed with how horrible she treats dad and mom when she was a live. She called dad the other day yelling at him because he decided to give the house to someone else to rent. Someone he felt more reliable then her. Which I agree with dad, this young woman who a granddaughter to dad through adoption of their neighbors, will not play games with dad. She won’t expect not to have to pay because they are doing some work on the house which cost money. I don’t have a problem with him choosing this person over his daughter. Why don’t I have a problem, because his daughter, my husband sister has been kicked out of numerous places, and now she being kicked out of another place. Everytime she needed help mom and dad gave it, but it times she got some serious tough love. She will never learn unless she hits rock bottom, frankly her kids would be better off in foster care until she can get her life together. I know this is probably seen as cruel, and uncompassionate, shoot she just lost her mom, she probably loved her in our own way and is grieving which is why she so disrespectful to everyone. Well, she been like this since I have meet her, I was the peacemaker in the family and got my husband to give another chance to her, but how many chances do we give. I feel bad for her children, but there comes a time when the family needs to allow what to happen to happen and help the kids if they need it.
It annoys me, my mom has been more of a help to my husband during this time then his sister. My mom sent money to me and hubby for food. I don’t think his sister should have done that but she should have offered to help take some of the cost of the funeral which was incurred