Just Pass Me By

My husband and I are living with his aging parent. Mom recently died and now he’s with us. We do not mind it but many days it is a challenge. lately he been very difficult to deal with and I am starting to wonder if his problem is Alzheimer’s because he don’t remember things and sometimes he says things have happened which never did or at least not since he lived with my hubby and me. I am scared that my husband and I are going to have to watch him become a shell of himself and that’s the hardest thing to deal with.
This weekend we got into a argument because he was being rude and very hard to handle. Accusing us of taking his stuff from him. He doesn’t have his van any longer because it broken, he thinks he can get a new motor and install for 500 bucks, that would be like going to a historic hotels and thinking it would cost you 10 bucks to stay the night. Which wouldn’t happen. He falls mom been taken from him and I don’t think he was blaming us for that but it felt like it. He was blaming us for taking the house from him, well we didn’t he just can’t handle the house and hubby and I have jobs here in the cities so we couldn’t up root ourselves for that.
He told me the other day my hubby threw him in the water on the boat, well we have been no where near water, other then driving over a bridge and taking baths. I honestly don’t know how to deal with all this stuff. There are days he’s easy to deal with and days he accuses my hubby or I of stealing his money, or something else. But since he lived with us he’s gotten more things then he ever got before and has money to go to casino everyweek. The only thing we have asked for since I had to cut back hours is help paying utilities and a little money for me so I can make ends meet. I am losing 600 a month and only ask him for about 200 to 300 depending on the month. Some times I don’t even take that much. This is something his psycratist told us to do to keep financially afloat, but if this is going t cause him to be upset I will not do it. I would rather suffer and not have what we need then hear him when he gets mad.
It was very hard for hubby not to tell dad, if it wasn’t for us dad would be in a home because he can’t live on his own. He can’t manage his money, and he don’t feed himself.