Just Pass Me By

I was listening to the news, and I was a little upset at what someone said in relations to a young lady being raped. According to the news she was heading home from her boyfriends house but before going home she wanted to stop for something to eat. There are just something you don’t want to say after someone been raped by gun point, it a horrible thing to live with and placing blame on the victim is not okay. What really ticked me off is someone saying that they would have never walked outside at night and it not the place to be. First off news flash women get raped in broad daylight so should they have not been out then too. It’s not her fault that she was raped, she did NOT ask for it because she was out late walking to a restaurant, she didn’t do anything wrong.
Now maybe her boyfriend should have walked her home or his parents if they where younger teens should have given her a ride but still it’s not their fault neither, it wasn’t them holding the gun to her. The one to blame isn’t this young lady but her attacker. I hope the police find this guy because clearly someone this dangerous needs to be off our streets, he shouldn’t be walking around for more victims to get so maybe instead of focusing so darn much on the victim shouldn’t have been out that late maybe we should focus on this jackass not having a right to what he done to her.
I know from experience of being a victim when I was in my early 20, how easy it was to blame myself and think because I had been somewhere or lift with them it was my fault, and it was easy to believe people who told me it was my fault. I can’t tell you how many of my friends, I found where not my friends. I was dumped by my so called boyfriend because he felt I should have never put myself in that situation. It took me a long time to understand what had happen to me wasn’t my fault, I said NO and it wasn’t listen to. It wasn’t my choice, it was his. Rape is a thing of control, and making the person feel like they lose all control. It a horrible feeling, and no one should blame this young lady for surviving a horrible thing. If anything they need to tell her it will be okay, and it will be hard but she will survive it and in time things will be better.
I hope her family will get her some help dealing with the after math of what happened, and that they will be there for her. So what she was out late at night, who cares, doesn’t give anyone the right to bring harm to her. Yes she was in the wrong place at the wrong time and I am sorry she had to survive something this horrible, but there nothing that can be done to change the past, now she will need to go forward even though, it is hard she will need to overcome it. I know right after it happens the feeling of lose and the fear which is the most intense thing I have ever felt, but that passes.

Personally I think rapist male or female should be hidden under floor tiles and forgotten about. I used to not be for capital punishment but you know surviving horrible things tends to change a person view point. Now I know people think carrying pepper spray or mace is a good thing to do, it can be ask long as it doesn’t backfire and blow back into your face. Now learning self defense I think is the best approach because it gives you more then a can which can backfire. Now I wouldn’t mind having a tazier but I don’t think I could stop myself from using it after they are down. So it’s probably good I don’t have one. I have to admit for a long time I didn’t even recognize myself because I had changed so much, and my outlook on what was okay had changed for a long time.