Just Pass Me By

Otis is talkative lately. He’s been curious about dad, and what’s dad doing. Otis seems to have accepted my husband dad which is good, probably can sense that he depress or upset… Today we went to church and spend the whole day there then we stopped for gas and then went to the store to pick up some stuff.
I feel feeling a little frustrated with everything right, now. Kitty been meowing a hole lot. Otis seems to think he wants to be heard. I told them I would make dinner after hubby got up from his nap, and Otis decided he have to add his meowing. Guess he telling me he would like cat food for dinner. He got a full dish of food so I know he happy. It seems the older he gets the more talkative he gets.
I will be glad when this month is over. Just one more day.
Dad is thinking he may stay here but he changes his mind every 10 minutes. I kind of need to know what he going to be doing so I can plan my schedule for school better, and spending time with hubby who I honestly don’t wanna spend time with right now.
Tomorrow I will jump on line and look for more job I wonder who long before Otis will meow… I have even looked into some home businessbut haven’t found the right thing there neither.

I wish bill collectors would take a flying leap on holiday weekends. Take Friday off go shopping do someting other then bug people! Dad and I were eating our breakfast, and chatting, I made us eggs, turkey sausage, and him toast with coffee. We have helped dad a lot, and I have been laid off for quiet a while, so I haven’t been able to keep up with my bills and I have got one person I owe just a little over 400 to, now I want to pay him but shoot I simply can’t. I told them once I got a job I will start sending in money. I will start sending in money as soon as I get a job. Hopefully sooner then later, so I can contact a debt consult and get my medical and hubby medical and this one bill as one payment this way we deal with our debts.
But for me to do this I need to have a job! I been looking and just not been sucessful at finding one. Dad was here when I got the call I hung up, I figured not arguing with the person, would be better for dad. I told him not to worry it’s just a bill collector on a car I had fixed and until I have a job, I can’t do anything. Dad told me to take 150$ from his money when he got it and give them some shut up money. I told him No, because it not right taking from him. It’s not right taking from him, on a fix income. I don’t feel right about it so I told him No, it’s not okay, and we won’t do that. Dad got upset with me, and said So I can’t help you eventhough you are helping me? He didn’t feel it was right, so now how do I make everyone happy, and still do the right thing. I know sending some shut-up money would help but I don’t want to take from dad, because he needs his money. I told him find I would but I am paying it back. He said no and I told him okay, I will pay it back if I see you need it or when you need it. I really need to find a good stable job.
Monday I was called to work for another company for one day, that will give me enough money to keep my cellphone on for the month so that what I will do. When I get ready to send the guy money I will call him and tell him I rounded up 150 for him that what I have and i will work on getting the rest to him some how. That’s the best I can do. The hard thing about parents, is they always want to help their children even if it their in law. I don’t know why dad is so attached to me. But I have won my husband family hearts. I want him to be proud of me not helping me out. To be honest I am worried about dad sleeping so much since he been here. I hope he getting enough sleep and being taking a care of well where he is at. Now maybe he woke up with a head ache as a side effect of not smoking. I am proud of him no smokign since he got here. Wow that has to be heard Wendesday evening until now and it’s friday. That’s very good.

I didn’t everything I wanted done in the apartment done today. I would have loved to finish vacuming the dining, hallway and the mopping of the kitchen floor. I did get all the dish finish and got the counter top nice and clean, but between school and house keeping I had to decide to do the rest of my kitchen tomorrow.
I will probably have to sweep the dining and hallway rug before I can vacuman because Otis has managed to spread his cat food all over the place. I will probably start putting away my summer shoes, because who wants to wearenglish saddles after it starts snowing. I figure before getting a job it be good to clean the house very well. I have my office lift to do but not sure if I want to try to tackle that one. It horrible, bunch of boxes and books which needs to be put away.
I am happy to see my house looking clean now I probably should start cleaning the kitchen and living room daily so it doesn’t need to be done so well.

There are 3 places I do not want Otis to get behind, well maybe more places if we count into. Those places are, my husband computer area, behind the tv furniture the peice I recently got, and behind my computer disk area. I worry about him getting into trouble with all those electric cords so I am good at chasing him away from there.
Our new TV Stand is nothing like the old one where there was no space for Otis to be underneath it. Right now I have put some notebooks, and on of my school writting manuels and a phonebook and a box for my laptop fan. I decided to do this to try to discourage Otis from hiding underneath there. Otis is a strong cat and you’d think as big as he is he wouldn’t want to be under the TV Stand I guess Otis like the tight little places. He seems to have all his hiding places in tight corners of the house. One place is in my closet behind my wedding dress there is where if he steals stuff from us he will move it there or in his cat litter. He been hanging out in my clean clothes basket all day today. I should put them clean clothes away to discourage him from living in my basket and go back to his favorite chair at least I think it is since that’s where all his hair is. I can’t tell you how often I clean the chair and still looks like a missing cat is there. I think all of Otis weight is in hair not in body weight, when I give him a bath he looks like a drawned rat, but yet he 20 pounds. Like to know where he been hiding his weight. Today he hasn’t done a lot of meowing guess yesterday he got enough attention to last him awhile. Cats need attention but they just don’t want us to believe that, they like us owner thinking there independent. Now I will have to start looking for him unders the TV Stand since that where I found him when I got up the first time.

It seems I just can’t avoid getting a bunch of junk mail that I don’t want. Some days I wish our mailman would simply throw out the advertisements from politicians and for credit cards or hey here’s a check for 3,000 towards your new car. Okay if I really wanted a new car, I wouldn’t be going about it that way, I would go and look for a car and if I felt the price was to high to pay I would try to negotiate with the car dealership.
I can’t even avoid junk mail in my e-mail accounts. It’s amazing how much junk I get through that system to. I know our mailman can not throw out our mail because that would get him into serious trouble. So I will have to continue throwing it out with the rest of garbage. I don’t mind my bank sending me advertisments but that because normally it comes with my statements and that don’t bug me sometimes I don’t even open those unless I have questions about balancing my check book.
I have online banking so it’s almost a waste to have the statement sent to me but I like it being sent to me just incase I ever have questions, I can go back and look at the statement and find what I was question. Online backing works great to make sure bills are going out on time or what not. My bank is a larger bank with a good small hometown Outer Banks
feel to it. They haven’t forgot about good customer service skills. Now the other week they did with my hubby, or maybe she simply had the wrong information because the next operator gave us a different song and dance.
I am surprised with the government having to bail out these banks within the last week I have gotten some borrow money from either credit cards or loans of some type. You’d think they wouldn’t want me borrow from them, since I don’t have a job and lets face it the longer I am out of work the worst my credit rating has got to be. I just won’t apply but wouldn’t it be nice if people aren’t responded they learn to just not waste the mail cost of sending out their advertisements to them.

We found my husband jacket. I couldn’t remember if he had it at the clinic, and my friend said she recalled him wearing it at the clinic. Today we got a package from one of our reveiwable things. Yippie I can’t wait to see what new games we get to play. Okay I like gaming expecially when I get stuck on homework or when I just get home from work and need to give my brain a little of relaxation time to think of nothing.
I better call my friend and tell her that he found his jacket. I stopped by management and one of our guys told me we have your husband jacket. I was like are you kidding me. This honestly was the last place and honest I didn’t even think about the office here. I would have never guessed it niether would my husband have. Good thing I went down there to pick up a package but it would have been nice to at least recieve a call hey we have your jacket. It’s not like it’s tea light candles which are great, but still not needed right away this time of year. It’s a jacket in in Minnesota it does get a little cold toward the end of October, well now hubby gots 2 jackets. Maybe before stopping on Saturday we should have checked with management but you know I forgot all about him having his jack over his arm not on him. Oh well, 2 jackets is good and now I don’t have to hurry up and net him his scraff. Now I can take my time and unthread it if I really wanted to but I think I am far enough that unthreading it would be more of a pain in the nick then good. I wonder what we got in our package, I don’t open them I let him open them, with me.

Someone has inserted my cat with a bunch of quarters he been so hyper lately. I wish I had his engery to day. He woke me up at 5am wanting to play, then he wanted lift alone. Good I can go back to sleep, then he started running around the apartment around 9am. Didn’t want nothing to do with me while I was sitting with no homework in my lap. I figure get my homework done first and start looking for a new job. I might have a job but I don’t know yet, waiting to find out if it coming through or not I hope it does because it will be a work at home type job. I would do well with it too, it wouldn’t be to hard even through it require a little of learning how to do it, but I am sure learning the tasks at hand won’t be to difficult considering I am almost done with my degree and having computer intellegences..
I got my laptop booted up to start on my homework, I had 3 discussion questions and to finish my part of the learning team assignment. Otis was laying in the blue round seat, we got when we first moved in, used to be hubby favorite seat. I like the seat but it’s a little uncomfortable not like nice theater seating. No sooner then I got my computer in my lap otis was meowing.
I called him over he came and I went to pet him. He ran to his scratching post, and tore through the living room to the bedroom back out and almost slamped into the window. A couple minutes go by and he back at meowing by the office door and master bedroom. The doors open so I know he can get to his place. After about 10 minutes I got tired of him meowing.. So I went to go get him and did the run through out the entire house and into the bedroom. I picked him up, he right away did the paws around the nick and did the hug thing. Otis is a strong cat, I don’t think it has anything to do with he’s 20 pounds but onces he found the hug position he don’t like to give it up.
I sat down with him and pulled my laptop back up. I am going to get done with everything one way or another. Otis after 5 minutes wanted down, huh you think I going to let you go. I kept him until I only had a paragraph lift to go on my paper, don’t worry it only took me a half hour to type it up. Could have been worst and been an over 1000 word assignment. I got my paper done, and responded to my DQs, and looked on the sites for jobs and still haven’t found anything very promising other then that one lead.

I wonder if I am the only one brought up with certain behaviors on at the table or while eating.  Some of the things growing up my mom didn’t want us doing was licking the plate clean, having elbows on the table, blowing the nose, coughing up flame and spitting it out at the table. She expected us if we had to do anything like blow our nose or pass gas through the backside to get up and leave the table. This is something that is still with me and I am in my early 30.

My husband on the other hand blows his nose while we are eating and I find it discussing and poor table manners I have asked him not to do this because it gross. But he don’t get it and does it anyways, but now if he feels something and I don’t give him his way he don’t like it. I wonder if I have learned different set of behaviors for eating. I almost don’t even want to eat with him when he got a cold, because I lose my appiete.

It’s amazing he don’t like probably 90% of the vegetables I like, he loves those highly process potatoes and rice. OKay I hate potatoes because my mom used to make use eat it all the time, but because I know he loves them I will simply eat them because they won’t kill me. Now it’s like pulling teeth to get him to try new things but fine I deal with it, so dinner becomes very limited in selections. How many times a week can I change up those mash potatoes. I don’t like rice at all unless it with milk and butter and sugar, but I stil will make rice with dinner. He loves corn on the cobb so do I so that a good thing come this time of year. Sometimes I get veggies for just me, but those end up being the frozen ones so that they don’t go bad.

Growing up I wasn’t allowed to tell my mom I wasn’t going to eat something, shoot if I told her that I have it for how ever long it took me to finally eat it. Mom was mean as far as food but I believe this is why I will eat what I am served unless it makes me sick. Now I don’t want to make something that would cause my husband to be ill but stuff that would be healthier for us to eat. 

Last night I ask him if he could please stop blowing his nose at the table while we eat and he got mad and said I was picking a fight. Gee it’s only me picking a fight when I ask him to do stuff that simple kindness for another person. I call it asking him nicely to stop something which I am pretty sure isn’t only bugging me. I am pretty sure when we go out to eat it bother other people in the restuarant who near us. I love him but he’s driving me buggy and since he won’t listen to me I have to go somewhere and talk about it.

I do know he wasn’t forced to eat things he didn’t like growing up, if he didn’t want his veggies he got his way. I am pretty sure if we ever have kids, I will be the meanny and make them eat their veggy but when he home and I am not around he will allow them not to eat them. So they will probably never learn how to eat the things which are healthy for them and will want all the yummy junk food. Most children do not like veggies growing up, and if they don’t learn how to like them they are probably not going to like them as adults neither.

Eating veggies is like online trading, when it first came out people weren’t sure about it, becuase it was something new, but now since we been trading on line for a while people prefer it probably. Grant it on line trading and eating veggies have nothing in common other then the first time you do it it may be a little different.  The one thing I don’t worry about with table manners is not putting my elbows on the table, I will do that. Well I also sometimes lick the bowl clean or yogurt jar clean but not when people are around to watch me.

The rules of manners I hold now are the not blowing nose at the table, try not to pass gas, chew with the mouth clothes, and try to have appropraite conversation at the table. It amazing my hubby gets it as far as watching things on tv, he knows Kitchen Nightmares, Bones, House, and a couple other shows are not good for viewing while eating. But he can’t get the simple table manner of don’t blow your nose at the table. I wouldn’t have posted this if I haven’t talk to him, and since I did that and he choiced to give me the silent treatment on it maybe he read this and get it.

Last night was the first time in a long time I been able to go swimming. On Monday and Friday Am they add more water into the pool so those are never days we want to go. Yesterday I waited until my husband came home so we could go together. We both need to drop a few pounds and I know I have put on some weight since I broke my ankle. Not a lot but enough for me to need to work out.
Grant it if I wanted to right now I could go and work out all day, I would diffently lose a lot of weight but that wouldn’t be the healthest way to go. My doctor told me not to start up where I lift off, grant it I was very active before and yet I am still putting on weight but since I got married I been less active. I think I need to stop worrying about does hubby want to join and just go by myself if he don’t want to, this way I can lose my wieght and not let him hold me back. I am sure I won’t need diet pills, if I exercise and eat right.
To bad I don’t have a dog, they make great walking compainions and you know you have to take them out wanting to or not or you’ll be sorry and have a mess to clean up. I think my husband needs some encouragement to drop to a health weight but he sensitive about it so I have to be careful how I approach things with him. Anything I say can be missunderstood, so sometimes it less of a headache to invite him to come with me. This way it encourages him with out making him feel bad. I am still wearing my brace part time, or when I am out of the house I am allowed to walk around with out it but not to much. At least until November I think that will be 2 months from the beginning of September. I hate being on restriction, but I know it’s probably for the best.

Someone put a quarter in Otis over the last couple of days. He will come up, go to pet him and he runs as fast as he can into the next room, and then he mews. So I call him Come, and he mews some more and I say Come here Otis. He will run into the living room look right at me and mew. Come here, and then pat the chair so he comes sits by it or puts his 2 front paws on the chair. but don’t go to pet because he will be off to run and hide.
I try to watch his food dish sometimes he goes through it faster than his normal speed. Last night I caught it just about empty while he was eating, so I filled it up. Otis has been looking out the window a lot mewing I wonder if he trying to call his friend. It seems there another small squirrel who taken interest in the cat and the middle pot. Maybe I aught to put some nuts in the pot this way they have a reason to dig it up, but then they become to depedent on a human and that never a good thing in apartment building so I won’t do that. If I lived on my own land I think I would do that so they would leave alone my plants. I wonder if squirrels have territories if that why it was always the one squirrel that come over to visit me.
Speaking of pets I don’t know where Otis is, well I know he is somewhere around. I would love to get otis a playmate might help him but not sure if I want it to be another kitty or if I want it to be a pet rat or something like it. I wonder if orovo detox would be effective on female cats.