Just Pass Me By

Let me say, I wish I would have stayed a sleep this morning and simply not got out of bed. Yeah I have had a very good day. I got up this morning on time, and started my van no problems there, other then the battery was a little low. I got dressed no problems there, feed the dog no problems there. I got dressed and out to the van and it looked liked the van charged up the battery some so I was hopeful to have a great day. Maybe when I had that stupid fish eating song up in my head I should have realized I was in trouble. I need a vacation at a extended stay hotels with padded walls My morning had a deceiving start off today.
I went on my way to work, and right away my battery power drop to less then half I wasn’t to worried about it because my van been doing that a lot lately. I knew the check engine light was on which was worrying me and I was planning on bring it in for a check up when I got paid and could pay my mechanic. I guess the van had other plans, I got about 5 1/2 miles and ding, with the lovely red check gags I checked and sure enough my battery was blinking at me. I got to a parking lot which was a park in ride. I called hubby had to wait close to an hour, it wasn’t even above 0 yet. So by the time hubby got there I was frozen.
Well I noticed my glove compartment was stuck and I decided I would try to get it unsticked. Not a good idea today, I ended up getting a stupid comb stuck in my middle finger. Yeah I think I just might lose my nail stupid thing been bleeding almost all day and boy it smarts. Ouch, Not a good day. It one of those combs which have the thick and thin teeth and I got the thick one stuck in my nail all the way up into it. Ouchie…. I called into work let them know I was going to be late yet again because my Alternator in the van crapped out, and was waiting for hubby to come and get me.
I get to work at the time I tell them I would be there, okay that is doing good for me, lately. The morning shift went okay I got my kid to do something he hadn’t done yet. He went into the ball pit with me, and played. Good I thought my day was getting better. The jokes on me.
During the lunch hour I did lunch hour with the kids. Don’t get me wrong I love kids and they are all sweet but Come on! Don’t kick me when I am already down. I had a little one who decided it would be good to aim at me and pee on me! Ugh Great!!! What am I the toilet, last time I looked I not white porcelain! Okay at least he only got my sweater and his paints and thank the good L-rd they have a washer and drier there.
I was both of our clothes, and needed up being in a T-shirt, why didn’t I think about keeping my coat on.
Okay no big deal had to walk outside with nothing but t-shirt on, not pleasant but I keep a good attitude to be honest I wanted to go home pretty badly after lunch. I didn’t know anything about my van because the tow truck never called me and it wasn’t there when I called during my lunch hour.
Great! Finally around 4ish my mechanic calls me and tells me the car just arrived, and he would get to it later tonight, never did but that’s okay. He can do it tomorrow.
So my day wasn’t pleasant but you know it’s better then my bad days when I worked in an office at least I can laugh at it.
I broke down, shoved a comb in my nail, froze halfway solid, got peed on. This has been quiet a day I am ready for it to be over!

Dad is having a hard time adjusting, to all of the changes. He thinks it’s mean to say until he learns his way around we do not want him going out a lone. Not to be mean but he is not remembering things and if he gets lost, I worry I or hubby wouldn’t be able to get to him before someone with bad intentions. I feel the need to protect him.
Dad is 86 and a WW2 vet, I try to treat him the way I would want my own parents to be treated at that age. This weekend dad told one of our friends that we was being mean to him, he says it a lot. So I explained to them why I wasn’t leaving him leave by himself. He doesn’t remember things and geesh sometimes it better to say let us go with you, or come with us out places. Lately I been having Dad tell me how to get home, from places. He getting better but still doesn’t know. He can tell me how to get home from about the community college over here, and from Lunds our local grocery store, I think he might be able to tell me how to get home from Cubs our other store. But he thinking about going to the casino by himself and he been there once and doesn’t remember the route of even how to get there, so isn’t it safer for hubby and I to drive him around, I don’t mind doing it. Dad doesn’t always look where he’s going neither which means in the city he could have a accident. I rather see him safe, then see him in a accident. Shoot car insurance is already expensive for him. We have a family plan trying to keep his cost down, he’s paying more then I did on risk insurance when I had no insurance.
There is a community center here that have activities for him, we try to get him involved but it’s all nos, then comments of I feel like I in Jail, Well you wouldn’t feel that way if you took us up on the offer to go out, or go and get involved with community center they have senior lunches, and many activities.
Dad is so worried about those who have taken advantage of him no longer wanting to speak with him. Okay one person I am thinking of took close to 900 if not more from dad, and he worried that she mad at him. She mad because his purse strings are closed to her. He worried about his daughter who honestly should learn to side with her dad on this problem not with this friend of her that a leech. I worry about dad because he so worried about those who take advantage of him, she should be fighting by our side and not yelling at me and my husband. She is very disrespectful towards everyone, and dad don’t even want to be around her. She’s had him so scared once since we living with us to the point of hiding in a dark room. We talked to dad and explained to him what was going on.
Yesterday dad said a lot of stuff that later he felt bad for and didn’t know where or why he said what he said, and expressed fears I want to get raid of him to because he been at 3 places and all three places has been conflict two of which he lift feeling like a failure. I told Dad we wouldn’t get raid of him, and that he can stay her, sometimes we have to place limits it not to be mean or because we don’t want you to have freedom but we do not want you to get lost and have you lost in a bad place and get hurt. He told someone who was a mandated reporter I was being mean and not letting him leave this weekend. She a psychiatrist of some kind, she told me what she does, and does something similar to what I would like to do. She asked me about it what was going on, and when I explained she looked at dad and said you didn’t tell me about that, and dad laughed and said I can’t get away with nothing. By the end of the night I asked if I could have her phone number because there were something I would like to talk and since she been a caregiver she might be able to help me deal with the stuff. I don’t think dad at the place yet where we need to say no more driving but he’s probably close, if he can’t start remembering how to get home form places we go to often, I do not want him driving around, he could end up in TX somewhere. On Monday he has a doctor appointment and I am thinking some of our concerns will be brought up to the doctor about dad. We love dad and don’t want nothing to happen to him.
I know my husband and I are not alone dealing with this but sometimes it feels pretty lonely.

This morning we lift the house like we normally do and headed to church. We had dad today, and finally just got home about 10 minutes ago. Dad enjoys church with us and I am glad it bugs my sister in law. He feels welcome and accepted and people come up and talk to him. They treat him like he belongs there. This is great.
We stayed until about 3pm and then went south to get dad vehicle, and stuff from where he was staying. We decided it was best to take the dog immediately out of where she was staying. Not that we do not trust she would be safe, but we had some concerns.
Dad van has some issues and I am hoping I can get it safely over to my mechanic place, because I have to keep my foot on the gas and break and the car just don’t wanna stay stop with the foot on both. If I dont keep my foot on the gas it dies, not fun at all. I think I would have rather been on a treadmills then parking his van because it kept dieing anytime I lifted my foot off the gas. After we got it home we had to run out to a town East of here a good ways for dad dog we found someone who is fostering the dog for us.
I was about to scream at my hubby because I thought he was going to let the dog in the car to long, and I wasn’t going to have that no way no how! I don’t care if they want to kick me out of here for doing the right thing by dads dog. We got her over to the foster home. The lady was very nice, but was about to need to live to get her daughter. I think our little dog for dad will be better off there Praise the L-rd we don’t have to worry about her now so much plus dads allowed to see the dog when he wants she lives about 25 miles away so this makes it easier on us.

In Minnesota it is winter, we had our first real snow. It is staying around for a while now. Today dad was outside having his smoke, because I don’t let anyone smoke in my apartment. I am highly allergic to smoke, so for health reason dad needs to smoke outside. Maybe he will stop smoking because it will get to cold to smoke outside.

I am wondering if it is forgetting to drive in the winter or simply just being careless drives. Yesterday dad and I had to make a emergency run to the store, it wasn’t a thing where we could have waited to go. I was driving in the parking lot going maybe 8 miles a hr. Which is slow enough here, this truck came blazing through almost hitting the front of the van, I slammed on the break and prevented anything from happening, didn’t even both turning on his signal when there are 2 ways he could have went. Then on the way out of the driveway, to the street a car decided to make that turn a little to fast and took up way more then their share of road. I noticed them turn and was able to react in time. This is why I am cautious because if I am not I will be sorry.

Today dad was out on the balcony, and this dumb driver was driving clearly to fast for snow and icy condition. He hit his break and went spinning around. Luckly the person didn’t hit anything, like someone park car, I know I would have been livid if they hit my van.  Dad came in and told me what had happened, my first question was did he hit anything. Dad said no I was happy.

Remember people who live in the Midwest where we get plenty of snow and ice during the winter, slow down, take your time. Do not worry about getting some where fast because it probably not going to happen. Keep a blanket and survival kit in the car just in case you break down on the side of the road. Leave earlier than you normally do to get to work on time if it has snowed over night because the roads may not have been plowed. Speaking of Plows remember they may not see you so if you must pass them do it carefully.

If you have to stop remember slaming on the breaks in the winter can cause you to lose control of your car. So lets remember our good driving skills the ones we should have learned every other winter that we have driven. If you do not know how to drive in the Snow and Ice stay off the roads, don’t become someone else headache. Remember don’t get distracted by your cell phone or texting your friends they can wait until your safely to where ever you are going.

People are so impatient. This morning, I lift for work I was running late but wasn’t spending. I figure if I am late I am late, it’s better to not get a ticket so I try not to drive to fast. Plus in my area soon there will be deers out and about along the way. I started off to work, and had 2 people cut me off and lift me no time for stopping. Thank goodness they didn’t hit their breaks or no animals ran out in front of us.
I made it to work on one piece. I got to work and I kind of wish I would have not gotten out of bed today. It was far more nicer, resting and sleeping then having to deal with everything. They boxed me in to my work station and I now have a bruise on my leg with no protection. Maybe I need to start using bubble wrap as mybody jewelry, I would never be bruised but boy could you just imagine all the noise I would make. I almost tripped over another box just what I would need another problem.
One nice thing happened today I got a gift certificate to Dairy Queen, and meet one of the ladies I been speaking with a lot on the phone from my company.
I lift early and decided it be good to go over to Lunds, I needed to grab something for dinner that I forgot yesterday. I got up to my cross street for Lunds, and decided I would go to the next intersection. The light was clearly yellow, and soon to change over to red. It changed to red by the time I got to the intersection, but I had to run a clearly red light. The person behind me was going way to fast in their nice little brand new car. Had I stop she would have hit me, so I floored it and prayed no one would rush through the light she followed me right through that red light and stayed on my tail. How nice, I must have a target painted on my van. I got to my next street and she almost hit me, again.
I went into the store, kind of annoyed with the feeling of having a target painted on. I got out of the store and then this guy decided while I was still in the space he had to occupy the same space. I barely missed him hitting me. It seems that I have to be a very defensive driver, or I might have to many problems. I am a good drive and can’t count how many accident I have avoided, guess what man who thought he needed my space, it would have still been there in 10 seconds.

On Friday, I had to go to my mechanic house and do some work for him. Not a problem at all, I first dropped my husband off at his job. His car is still broke down, so I figured it be nice to take him to work and then go on my way. Well I was going up to work and there’s this one intersection is horrible between my husband work and my mechanic house.
I got to that intersection. Normally I am used to setting through at least a half of light. On Friday, I sat through several lights, because some RV’s decided they had to stop right in the middle of the intersection which means no one would go anywhere I either side of the street. By the 3rd light of setting through and waiting when I was the first car at the intersection I was starting to become annoyed. We all know my husband mom has cancer so I am probably one step away from road rage. I tried to think about my home office, and some things I need in it. I was wishing I had a copier so I could make a few copies of things I needed for school.
Well, finally I got tired of thinking of my office and started feeling annoyed that I had to sit at the light. So I pretty much said so loud, Come on Get out of the Intersection, so others can get through. The guy parked next to me, said, they all want to do the short cut it. We talked for a few minutes, well maybe one of them heard mine and his little conversation because that was the last green light we had to sit through. it took me close to a half hour from my husband work to my mechanics which is normally a 5 to 10 minute ride. Just lovely, I wish people would learn if they are in a RV they aught to wait on the other side of the road and not block the intersection of a major street. If it’s not illegal to park in a busy intersection then it should be unless the car is broke down. I am reasonable something a drive can’t help but when your in control of your vehicle then there’s probably no need for you to be in the middle of the intersection.

I got off early today again. My plan was after work I would run over to Wal-mart, I need a Seat cover, I should have gotten 2 not one but I put it on the site that needed it the most. Tomorrow on my way to pick up hubby I guess I need to go back oh well. When I lift work, it looked like we had a storm moving in. My city is known to flood a lot, it seems pretty hilly and the drainage doesn’t seem good.
I got to Wal-Mart right about the time the storm moved in. So I ran in and decided I would stay for a little while because the color of the Sky made me think not good for driving. Goodness I spent more money then I wanted to, because I was walking around looking for things. Almost spent way to much.
I was right, there was plenty of tree derbies in the roads when I came home. I was driving down one of the side streets because hwy 494 during storms and rain isn’t a pleasant road even if it’s during lunch hour. I took the frontage road I guess would be the best thing to call the road. I got to a place where I had to make a turn or go throw a puddle that was up to the top of the tire on a larger trucker. I have a van, but I am not going to go and drive through a puddle that looks like it could easily stall my van out. I went through one of the car dealer lot, they didn’t mind but everyone was doing it to. On a side note, don’t just follow the leader they might lead you into a dead end. I had a older couple follow me right into a dead end. I should learn how to read that sign, “Dead End” it means you can’t go anywhere but turn around and go back to the next turn. I finally got back on to the road I needed and then go to my turn for another road which leads to my street.
Alright people, don’t bend over and put your head into traffic let the city worker clean out the drain they have cones and clothes to be seen with. A lady decided she had to be in the road cleaning out the drain of the small limb pieces from trees and flowers. The truck before me was hugging the left side of the lane and so was I. After he passed the woman I saw her with her head going further out into the street. Good thing no one missed her, but she not the most unwise person out during this weather.
While driving to Wal-Mart I had a kid decide it was wise to run into a 4 lane road, with traffic coming at him with full speed. No cross walk no nothing just ran across the road. I wounder if children’s life insurance covers kids who run into incoming traffic, when it’s clear that traffic is going, and no crosswalk.

I leave in the morning at about 645, it doesn’t take me long to get to work and normally I am there a little before 7am. The weather is nice lately, so many people are biking to work or where ever. I was on the final turn on the road. It’s a good thing I pay attention better then most. There was this biker and large truck talking and biker was crouching down on the left side of his bike on the left side of the truck, so he was very much in the middle of the road. I had to use the other side of the road to get by him.
So it seems like bicyclist need a reminder of where to fix their chain, tires or hold a conversation with someone. First the middle of the Road is not a good place for this. If your chain falls of get onto the sidewalk, and fix it there, this way no one could miss ya and run you over. So you want to talk to someone else in a vehicle gets out of the road on the other side of the truck or car between the road and curb not between the truck and center line.
There are many careless drivers out there, it’s me, me, me, when it comes to them. The last thing I want to do is drive up to a accident because someone didn’t see a bicyclist in the middle of the road at a complete stand still.
I am not sure why, I see so many with out Helmets. They are important heaven forbid but if you where to fall and hit your head, your better off with a Helmet on then with your skull which can be smashed in. Sorry, but I have seen one to many accident which involved bikes. If your riding in traffic don’t expect other to watch out for you because they probably won’t watch out for them and your self.
If your riding on the Road the same laws apply to you as to us in cars. Signal your turns and what your planning because people can not read minds, so don’t just dart in front of a car to make a left or right turn.
You know what I think would be great on Bikes GPS this way you can always find where your going.

I did not sleep well last night, I tried but just couldn’t seem to get into a good sleep. I woke up just as tired, as when I went to bed last night. Otis over night got sick a couple of times, poor kitty. I still haven’t been able to figure out, why he has to puke in two places and not just one. Last night he decided he had to do it in my pail of dirty clothes. Just great, I cleaned up his miss and then try to get back to sleep.
It took me forever to finally fall asleep last night so the last thing I need was kitty waking me up to clean up his mess oh well I love him.
I should probably speak to management about batteries being lift in our parking lot. I almost hit one this morning, good thing I saw it . This morning on my way to work was interesting. When I started out my drive to work, I almost jump the stupid curb. Instead of reverse I had it in drive, gee maybe no one will miss the tree. Just kidding I didn’t hit anything but the curb.
It is light out at 630 in the morning but sometimes it good to have maxim lighting.
I finally got to the road for my work, and instead of hitting the break, you guessed it I hit the stupid gas peddle, boy my brain was very confused today at least it functioned at work and things there went better then my drive in. Good thing no one tried to cut me off or something stupid.

Today I finally decided it was time for me to fill up my van. Not a fun thing but I didn’t spend as much money as I thought I would need to or my husband. I put 23.00 in and my husband put a other 23.00 so that was just 46.00 bucks normally my gas will last me 2 weeks if I only drive it to where I work, still a lot more then what I want to put in my tank.
I have been put on a assignment where I have worked before, I lift Friday early thinking I would fill up the tank on my way home but then after I started toward home I saw the gas price at the nearest gas station and decided not to run to the one hubby and I sometimes use because I didn’t want to run late.
I take the bus to meet him before services on Friday night and we go out and have dinner together.
Today we where talking about my van troubles, and how my muffler after my 3rd paycheck will need to be fixed first. It got some issues that is getting worst and making driving the van sometimes challenging the new thing is for some reason it just simply loud. I have to get work done on the front end. To bad the can can’t be like dell memory simple to put into the right place. Nice thing about memory chips in computers if you now what your doing it a pretty simple thing to do. I wish I had a garage and all the right tools to fix the muffler but hey I am not a wielder or anything close to that so I will have to have one of my mechanic friends do it for me. I can do a regular tune up on the van but even that would be a chore.
I don’t even want to begin to think about how much fixing the cat back is going to cost me, I already know that the tie rods and right hub center need to be replace and that is looking at close to 300 or maybe 400 depending on how many problems there are for the mechanic to do.